The real reason founders won’t hand you the keys
If you’ve ever tried to “take work off a founder’s plate” and hit resistance, it’s not because they don’t value you.
It’s because every system, sale, and deliverable used to have their fingerprints on it.
You’re not just stepping into their business — you’re stepping into their identity.
That’s why trust isn’t built by competence alone.
It’s built when the founder feels safe letting go.
How to earn founder trust (without threatening their Legos)
Inspired by Molly Graham’s classic Give Away Your Legos, here’s the playbook I share with every ops leader who asks:
“How do you get founders to trust you?”
1️⃣ Show the system before you touch it
Founders relax when they understand your logic. Map the current state, highlight friction using one metric that matters (revenue, margin, or capacity), and narrate the why behind each change. Transparency turns threat into trust.
Try this line:
“Before we change anything, I’ll document how it works now, define what good looks like, and come back with options. You’ll see the tradeoffs before we decide.”
2️⃣ Make it their idea
Owners buy into ownership — not overhaul.
Frame recommendations as answers to their goals.
Try this question:
“Would it help if this ran without you needing to review every deal? If yes, here’s the smallest change that gets us there this month.”
3️⃣ Prove small, then go big
Start with one micro-win (a smoother handoff, a quiet Slack channel, invoices paid on time). Measure it.
Trust compounds with evidence.
Your 30-day play:
Observe: Shadow the process and pick one success metric.
Organize: Define owners, “done” criteria, and the happy path.
Optimize: Automate one step, remove one bottleneck, measure one result.
4️⃣ Reduce risk with reversibility
Remind them: nothing is permanent.
Pilot changes in a sandbox or single workflow; set a rollback plan.
Risk down = trust up.
5️⃣ Speak their language
If the founder is technical, use MVP and sprint language.
If they’re financial, lead with margin and cash cycle.
If they’re sales-led, quantify reclaimed seller time or faster close rates.
Case in point: The European expansion conversation
During my workshop, a founder asked about expanding a B2B2C platform for hotels into Europe — but worried their current ops team wasn’t ready.
They were right.
Before hiring, I recommended they:
Start with boots on the ground to validate adoption,
Use fractional experts to build the GTM playbook and train the next team,
Keep early execution light, reversible, and measurable.
The takeaway?
You don’t have to give away all your Legos — just the right ones, at the right time, to the right people.
That’s how founders scale without losing control.
A note to founders (and those who support them)
I make every founder I work with read Give Away Your Legos.
Not because it’s a feel-good essay, but because it’s the best explainer I’ve found for the emotional side of scaling.
Delegation isn’t loss. It’s expansion.
Each stage of growth requires new systems, new people, and a new relationship with control.
So if you’re holding on too tightly — or working with someone who is — start there.
Then build trust one process at a time.
What’s the hardest part of letting go for your founder (or for you)? Hit reply — I read every note.
All the best,
Natalie
Fractional Strategic Operations Leader
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